how to become financially independent

How to Become Financially Independent

What does it mean to be financially independent? Here’s what financial independence means to me: security, time to paint and write and explore, the ability to overcome crises, and the opportunity to leave the work force when I choose.  I’m well on my journey, but I’ve learned many lessons over time.  It seems fair to first share with you the context in which this goal was born.

My Four Mistakes

When I turned 30, I had a good full-time salaried position in California, a small retirement fund, and no debt.  Three years and four states later, I was struggling to survive, had no health insurance, and owed tens of thousands of dollars. What happened?  Several things were beyond my control – being downsized out of my position, shrinking University budgets that led to hiring freezes, and just some rotten bad luck.  Twenty years later, I can point to four of my own mistakes that contributed to my demise.

Mistake #1: I did not have a Back-up Plan.

I was naïve.  Surely, universities would fight to have someone like me on their faculty!  After all, I was a newly minted PhD, my dissertation was being published, and I had applied research experience.  Wrong! Timing is everything. I entered a stagnant job market and my “off the beaten path” dissertation subject led to zero job offers.  Deep in my heart, I believed that all my hard work would be rewarded. I was not prepared for rejection. I still hear my friend’s voice: “What’s your back-up plan?” Mine was pretty lame and drawn out of desperation.

Mistake #2: I did not have a mentor.

My graduate school program did little to help me find employment.  A few graduate school pals tried to open doors for me, but jobs were scarce.  In hindsight, I would have benefited from a mentor, someone who would guide me and provide advice and support through the process.

Mistake #3: I did not know how to apply my degree.

Everyone I knew who had a PhD in Sociology went straight from graduate school to the University classroom.  What else could I do with a PhD?  Today, thanks to the Internet, it’s easy to explore options.  Back in the 1990s, when dial-up modems were the standard and Internet providers charged by the minute, job searches were expensive and clumsy and online postings still rare. Consequently, I ended up taking low-wage jobs, even stocking shelves at Target, to simply keep the lights on.

Mistake #4: I knew very little about money.

My roots are working class and the only financial training I had was how to reconcile a checkbook register. Only later did I learn about the magic of compound interest. I’ve always lived within my means, but building passive income and developing investment strategies were well beyond my knowledge base.

Rebuilding Brick by Brick

I was 33 when I finally returned to salaried work and health insurance.  It’s true, I had no health insurance for several years and managed to avoid medical care during that time.  I was living in Atlanta and working as a Crime Analyst.  The job certainly didn’t require a PhD and the salary was okay, but it allowed me to secure a nice clean apartment, which was huge in my book.  While I had the position in Atlanta for less than a year, it gave me security and hope.  There were two things I did during this period to rebuild my financial life.

  1. I signed up for a debt management program. At that time, my debt was around $20,000.  The debt management company negotiated with my credit card companies for better terms and with a lot of discipline, I paid off my debt within 18 months.  I was free again!
  2. I became the Queen of Frugality. My splurge was the purchase of a brand new bed with mattress, and the joy of sleeping in my own bed was well worth it.  But otherwise, I kept furnishings to a minimum, using lawn chairs for months until I could afford better.  And I lived without a television, which is not a necessity in my life.

The Aha Moment

Finally, after all my struggles, I landed a PhD-level research gig in the Washington, DC metro area.  The salary was respectable and my continuing frugality allowed me to purchase a townhouse in northern Virginia.  I couldn’t believe it!  Wow!  I was a homeowner, and that was something I couldn’t have dreamed of a few short years earlier.

Eventually, an even better opportunity came my way and I moved to Williamsburg, Virginia.  I was doing pretty well financially, and I continued to tuck money into my retirement accounts, which I tracked with Excel spreadsheets.  But I didn’t have a plan and still knew very little about investing outside of a retirement plan.  I happened across a book called Smart Women Finish Rich, where I learned about a concept called a “Dream Fund.”  No one ever mentioned a Dream Fund before!  So I built a dream fund and before I knew it, I was in Ukraine adopting a little girl and making two dreams come true!

My Approach to Financial Independence

As you might have guessed, I don’t subscribe to “get rich” schemes that involve trips to Vegas or Ponzi schemes.  It’s the slow and steady road that will lead you toward financial independence.  The mainstays of my approach are pretty dull.Path to Financial Independence

Make a Plan.  The Smart Women Finish Rich book provided a template on how to make a basic plan.  Here are three questions to get you started:

  1. What will financial independence allow you to do?
  2. What are your goals?
  3. What specific actions will you take to accomplish your goals? Think in terms of retirement, savings, and dream funds and develop a strategy for each of the next four years.

Prioritize. Few people can afford luxurious lifestyles.  The rest of us have to prioritize.  What’s most important to you?  When you write your priorities into your plan, you have a starting point that allows you to document your success and see how your priorities change over time.

Save.  Everyone needs an emergency reserve for when things go bad.  If you were to lose your job today, how many months could you survive on your own?  Save at least six months of expenses so that you have a cushion for tough times.

Invest.  The fun begins when you get to invest your money and see it grow.  Invest in retirement and in non-retirement accounts. There are lots of options out there, but make it simple – stick to index funds.

Underneath this approach is the ongoing effort to be frugal.  Don’t spend money on unnecessary things.  “Keeping up with the Jones’s” is a sure way to derail all of your efforts.  Live simply.  If you’d like some inspirational help on the value of being frugal, check out one of my favorite blogs: The Frugalwoods.

Begin your journey toward financial independence today!

About the Author Brenda

Dr. Brenda is a financial coach, educator, researcher, and sociologist. In addition to blogging at The Five Journeys, she is the founder of the Gutsy Women Club. Her passion is guiding people on their journey to financial freedom through coaching at DrBrendaMoneyCoach and online courses at