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Are you happy? Do you want to be happy? I don’t mean happy ALL THE TIME, but are you generally happy, and dare we say content, with your current life? The good news is that happiness can be achieved!
A number of studies have documented the relationship between age and happiness. If you are in your 50s and beyond – the AARP Crowd – your sense of well-being and happiness increases with age. Considering that we live in a youth-oriented society, you would think us older folk would be crotchety and unpleasant. Well, that stereotype, like so many, is flat out wrong! I’m in my 50s and am surprised at how blissfully happy I sometimes feel. Meanwhile, my mother turns 85 this year, and if anyone is the model of healthy and happy aging, it’s mom. She seems to be constantly on the go with her friends. Mom has taken on challenges with zest and has blossomed into a remarkable person. Aging has its advantages.
I grew up thinking happiness was something that happens to us. Happiness came from a winning lottery ticket, a surprise date, a really funny movie. Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project made me realize that I’d had it all wrong! (You can find Gretchen’s latest work here.) I was responsible for creating my own happiness. So I began to think more about what makes me happy, and it came down to memories and the five senses – the memory of enjoying a wickedly good laugh with a friend on the historic streets of Prague, the smell of fresh mowed hay (especially alfalfa), petting my old lovey dovey cat Smoke and hearing her purr, the feeling of crispness in the air as autumn leaves begin to fall. And creativity was at the top of my list too, whether it’s writing, painting rocking chairs, or making a piece of art out of a chunk of wood.
As I reflected on the things that made me happy, none of them had to do with money and the stuff I owned. Well, that’s not completely true as Prague required money. But really, everything that made me happy had to do with experiences, nature, and creativity. Not things. Once I realized the simplicity of it all, I purposely traveled in the direction of happiness.
Several years ago, my colleagues and I were gathered into the conference room, where we learned about the death of one of our co-workers, our friend, who was only in her 50s. She had died in her sleep. We were shocked at the loss of this healthy young woman who always lent a hand and shared a smile. This was my wake up call. Why am I waiting until I retire to have fun? Do I really have to let work drive my life? So when I saw that there was a new class of recruits to become certified Virginia Master Naturalists, I signed up! When my friend told me she was going to Peru, I asked if I could tag along! Somehow, the person who always plans and organizes has become spontaneous. I kinda like the feeling.
I’m not happy all of the time, for sure. And there are glitches that hold me back and sometimes make me forget that I have a role to play in my own happiness. Here are my particular challenges:
Write down the things that make you happy, even if they seem minor. Do they fit into common themes? Perhaps travel is your thing? Or baking bread? How about going to football games? Or playing cards with friends? Once you’ve identified your happy places and activities, research ways you can participate in them more frequently. Will it cost money? This is a good time to think about the dream fund mentioned in how to become financially independent. Do what makes you happy!
Dr. Brenda is a financial coach, educator, researcher, and sociologist. In addition to blogging at The Five Journeys, she is the founder of the Gutsy Women Club. Her passion is guiding people on their journey to financial freedom through coaching at DrBrendaMoneyCoach and online courses at DreamBigMoneyAcademy.com.
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